The blog

It is 11:47pm. You are exhausted. You know you have to be up early. You have known this for the past two hours. And yet here you are, phone in hand, watching one more video, reading one more thread, doing one more thing that has nothing to do with sleeping.

What I am offering here is a collection of evidence-based, non-medication interventions that either work alongside whatever treatment plan you already have, or serve as a starting point for people who cannot or do not want to use stimulants.

Adults with ADHD who recognize and actively use their strengths — creativity, humor, hyperfocus — report significantly better wellbeing, quality of life, and fewer mental health symptoms.

The ADHD tax isn't one thing. It's a thousand small things, compounding over time, adding up to a number that will make you feel things when you finally look at it.

Let's start with something important. There is a viral Instagram carousel going around right now claiming that Claude has a built-in feature called "ADHD Executive Function Mode." It has 162,000 likes. It has been shared 226,000 times. And it is not true. There is no such feature. Claude does not have a secret ADHD mode. What the carousel is actually describing — buried under the misleading headline — are prompt techniques.

I want to tell you about a phase of my life where I was going through a bag of Toxic Waste hard candy — the ones that come in a little yellow barrel and are so aggressively sour they should come with a liability waiver — fast enough that I genuinely damaged the roof of my mouth. Disintegrated my taste buds. Had to take a break from solid food for a few days. That kind of damage.

I want to be clear about what that "major source of chronic stress" actually was. It was a five-year relationship with a man who was emotionally, psychologically, and financially abusive. And I want to talk about it not because I enjoy revisiting it, but because I am a highly intelligent woman who let it happen for years, who felt profound shame about that for a long time, and who now understands — backed by actual science — that my intelligence had almost nothing to do with

Here's a longevity tip that won't require a cold plunge, a $400 supplement stack, or a wellness influencer telling you to "protect your peace." Ready? Get some help. And then go find your people. I know. Revolutionary. But hear me out, because the research behind this is genuinely wild, and also because I learned some of this the hard way — including one particularly memorable incident involving my own medication that I'll get to shortly.

Let me paint you a picture. It's 10am on a Tuesday. I have three deliverables due, a full inbox, and a 9am standup that just blew up my entire morning's momentum. I sit down to tackle the most pressing thing on my list — a client report — and forty-five minutes later I surface from a hyperfocus spiral having done absolutely none of it. What I have done is perfectly align every single icon on a PowerPoint slide to within a pixel of its life. Every. Single. One. If you just